I caught myself in an act of self-censorship on facebook yesterday.
I never used to do that. In fact, I once swore I would NEVER do that. (I should listen to the things I tell my children like, “Never say never, it’s a REALLY long time!”)
But there I was, about to post my new favorite quote EVER and I realized I had just accepted and/or initiated friend requests from a dozen semi-strangers I had met at a writer’s conference. Not only were some of these people not yet “real” friends (Defined loosely as people who have seen me inebriated and still like me enough to call me afterward) they were also “professional contacts” from a “networking” event.
All of a sudden I doubted myself. I looked at the quote again and tried to see it through the eyes of a stranger. Someone who wouldn’t know to read the humor into it. Or someone who knew me just well enough to know that under the humor, I actually love the quote because I believe it to be 100% true, but who didn’t know me well enough to know that even if they didn’t see it that way, I’d still like (and respect) them.
I didn’t used to have this doubt because I used to be a social media prude. I used to only have 75 or so friends on facebook and they were all actual friends. It wasn’t a tool I used to network, or preen, or sell myself. It was, well, for friends. I know, how totally 2009 of me.
So, after much thought, and debate, and the realization that saying the wrong thing on the wrong social forum will almost certainly end my career as a children’s book author before it even begins, not to mention offending and pissing off all of my newly acquired subscribers, ‘friends’, and followers, I have finally realized that I would rather live life as me than inside some social media imposed closet.
So, if you’ve read this far, you must be dying to hear my new favorite quote.
It’s from House M.D. And it goes as follows –
Patient – “Faith is not a disease.”
House – “But it is communicable, and it kills a lot of people.”