A friend brought Mrs. Hall’s recent letter to teenage girls to my attention yesterday.
I knew I wanted to reply, but I struggled with HOW I wanted to reply.
Honestly, I didn’t want to go all Ranty Pants rage machine – because I wanted her to be able to hear what I had to say and rage pushes people away from the conversation rather than bringing them into it.
Ultimately, I would have liked to be calm enough, rational enough, loving enough to write something like this.
I tried even, but I just couldn’t get there.
There was so much I wanted to say – not just to Mrs. Hall, but also to the BOYS who might read her letter and might not understand how scapegoating girls who dress or pose provocatively for their unpraiseworthy thoughts (or deeds) contributes to rape culture.
I wrote, rewrote, edited, changed tactics, wrote again.
I couldn’t find the words.
Then I realized… Mrs. Hall had already given them to me.
She had done the work, I just needed to change the lens.
This morning Bombshell, the online rag I recently started writing for, published my rebuttal.
I’d love it if you popped over and gave it a read. And, of course – I’d love your comments and thoughts! I’ll be popping over there to participate in the conversation.
And to Mrs. Hall – I’m sure you didn’t expect that post to take over the internets. I’m sure you’re wondering how something written with so much positive intent could be taken so poorly. I’ve been there myself. And I’ve been blessed to have hoards of people come down on me and show me how my words or actions were harmful and hurtful rather than uplifting or inspiring, and then – I’ve been given a second chance to try again and do better.
Here’s to second chances. May we all be blessed enough to have a few!